A four pack.
*Edit \ After writing half way through, then re-reading what I had written, I realize that my thesis statement is not supported by the content in the paragraphs.
I started this about parents, wrongly teaching gay hate to their children, but stopped at, who defines social standards and acceptance. I have too many open directions while writing high. I need to save this for when I am sober, and break each thought up into its own piece. I will not complete this written thought, and will leave it to dwell upon the thoughts of the curious reader.
*Edit\ Also don’t let my rambling above stop you from reading below.
Parents, who teach their children that being gay is wrong, are only inhibiting their kids from growing to their full potential. They will never have the complete freedom to explore their interests, or be comfortable just being themselves. The negative stigma that comes with the allusion of homosexuality impacts the social development and personality of kids and teens alike.
I, as a gay teen, enjoy violent movies, punk music, making bracelets out of yarn, and baking. I do not believe I am gay because I enjoy effeminate activities, nor the opposite. I do activities that I enjoy, or are interested in. I can openly do these activities because I no longer fear any social judgment.
Hypothetically a person were to openly exclaim, “Baking is gay; baking is for fags!” I think, “Yea? I am gay, so I will bake all I want!” I think baking can be damn fun, and delicious. It’s like edible science! I would definitely recommend baking to anybody who would enjoy using their creativity, in coordination with math and food.
Hypothetically speaking again, little Benny just loves art, with mixing, and blending, creating. Benny is also really good and learning fractions. Baking would be the perfect hobby for little Benny to pick up, to invoke creativity, fun learning, and to just do something he enjoys.
Timmy grew up in a household learning that boys like tools and girls play dress up. He was also taught that boys doing girl things are gay, and being gay is wrong.
Little Benny and Timmy are friends. Benny’s parents have introduced him to the wonderful world of baking. Benny, being excited about his new hobby, can’t wait to share it with Timmy. Once Timmy hears about the cookies and cupcakes Benny has been decorating all afternoon, he becomes angry or upset. “I can’t believe you are so gay! Timmy tells the other boys at school, and they all begin to make fun of Benny until he finally gives up baking for good.
Benny had to give up something he really enjoyed doing, because social rules say it’s wrong to partake in any activity which may allude weak, or feminine.
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-Pot Thought
Gay guys can kill sharks, and they are still gay!
On Kony 2012: I honestly wanted to stay as far away as possible from KONY 2012, the latest fauxtivist fad sweeping the web (remember “change your Facebook profile pic to stop child abuse”?), but you clearly won’t stop sending me that damn video until I say something about it, so here goes:
Stop sending me that video.
The organization behind Kony 2012 — Invisible Children Inc. — is an extremely shady nonprofit that has been called ”misleading,” “naive,” and “dangerous” by a Yale political science professor, and has been accused by Foreign Affairs of “manipulat[ing] facts for strategic purposes.” They have also been criticized by the Better Business Bureau for refusing to provide information necessary to determine if IC meets the Bureau’s standards.
Additionally, IC has a low two-star rating in accountability from Charity Navigator because they won’t let their financials be independently audited. That’s not a good thing. In fact, it’s a very bad thing, and should make you immediately pause and reflect on where the money you’re sending them is going.
By IC’s own admission, only 31% of all the funds they receive go toward actually helping anyone [pdf]. The rest go to line the pockets of the three people in charge of the organization, to pay for their travel expenses (over $1 million in the last year alone) and to fund their filmmaking business (also over a million) — which is quite an effective way to make more money, as clearly illustrated by the fact that so many can’t seem to stop forwarding their well-engineered emotional blackmail to everyone they’ve ever known.
And as far as what they do with that money:
The group is in favour of direct military intervention, and their money supports the Ugandan government’s army and various other military forces. Here’s a photo of the founders of Invisible Children posing with weapons and personnel of the Sudan People’s Liberation Army. Both the Ugandan army and Sudan People’s Liberation Army are riddled with accusations of rape and looting, but Invisible Children defends them, arguing that the Ugandan army is “better equipped than that of any of the other affected countries”, although Kony is no longer active in Uganda and hasn’t been since 2006 by their own admission. These books each refer to the rape and sexual assault that are perennial issues with the UPDF, the military group Invisible Children is defending.
Let’s not get our lines crossed: The Lord’s Resistance Army is bad news. And Joseph Kony is a very bad man, and needs to be stopped. But propping up Uganda’s decades-old dictatorship and its military arm, which has been accused by the UN of committing unspeakable atrocities and itself facilitated the recruitment of child soldiers, is not the way to go about it.
The United States is already plenty involved in helping rout Kony and his band of psycho sycophants. Kony is on the run, having been pushed out of Uganda, and it’s likely he will soon be caught, if he isn’t already dead. But killing Kony won’t fix anything, just as killing Osama bin Laden didn’t end terrorism. The LRA might collapse, but, as Foreign Affairs points out, it is “a relatively small player in all of this — as much a symptom as a cause of the endemic violence.”
Myopically placing the blame for all of central Africa’s woes on Kony — even as a starting point — will only imperil many more people than are already in danger.
Sending money to a nonprofit that wants to muck things up by dousing the flames with fuel is not helping. Want to help? Really want to help? Send your money to nonprofits that are putting more than 31% toward rebuilding the region’s medical and educational infrastructure, so that former child soldiers have something worth coming home to.
Here are just a few of those charities. They all have a sparkling four-star rating from Charity Navigator, and, more importantly, no interest in airdropping American troops armed to the teeth into the middle of a multi-nation tribal war to help one madman catch another.
The bottom line is, research your causes thoroughly. Don’t just forward a random video to a stranger because a mass murderer makes a five-year-old “sad.” Learn a little bit about the complexities of the region’s ongoing strife before advocating for direct military intervention.
There is no black and white in the world. And going about solving important problems like there is just serves to make all those equally troubling shades of gray invisible.
[kony2012.]
The problem with most people is that they cannot connect, and acknowledge the rest of the world outside of their own bubble. There are reports of 121 dead in riots in Athens last week. Oh yea, so what. Just a number, so what. Step back though. Think if someone close to you was killed. Mother, brother, cousin, uncle. You would consider that the point in your life that has changed. It will impact you deeply, if affects who you are. Well think, 121 people died. That’s 121 separate families, separate mothers, brothers, cousins, all people, just like you. All of those people are impacted for the rest of their lives. So no, it is not just a number. It is an impact of the lives of so many that will change their world forever.
-Pot Thought